Have you ever asked someone a question such as "can you help me do this?". And then you frown, feel hurt, angry, disappointed when you receive the answer 'no'?
You shouldn't be. You asked a question and you got the answer. Why are you upset?
In Australia, we have a way to solve this problem. We put up a simple sign that says "please do not ask, as refusal may offend". Beautiful, isn't it?
Too often, we are requiring that others comply with our request. We are no longer simply asking for a favour. We are almost demanding for it. In that case, shouldn't the question be re-phrased to "I demand that you do this for me"? I think it is much clearer, with less room for misunderstanding.
No, no is not a wrong answer.
No comments:
Post a Comment